According to Dr. Neel Burton, there are concrete ways that you can start building your self-confidence today. Low self-esteem can have many causes and affect people at different points in life. Childhood trauma, neglect, emotional, physical or sexual abuse can all cause low self-esteem beginning very young. As you get older, low self-esteem can be caused by poor health, negative life events such as losing a job or relationship or feeling like you don’t have control of your life.
The good news is that you don’t have to wait to start becoming more self-confident. Here are some steps you can take today to start changing the way you see yourself and your world.
First, Dr. Burton recommends writing two lists, one list of your strengths and one of your accomplishments. Take the time to actually write them down, not just list them in your head. If this is hard for you, ask a support friend, family member or therapy professional to help you. Think positively about yourself. When negative feelings or self-doubt crop up, challenge them instead of accepting them as true. Even if you feel you need to make changes in your life, you can make those changes. You are a valuable, unique individual with the power to change your perspective and your circumstances.
Next, regularly take time to take care of yourself with a nice shower or bath, do your hair and put on clothes that make you feel good in them. Eat a healthy, well-balance diet and exercise regularly. Your physical health can have a strong impact on your emotional health. Not everyone has the time or physical ability to exercise like an Olympian. There’s no need to be a professional athlete to see the benefits of setting aside time to regularly move or get outside to help create positive change for your body and your mind. It’s also important to get enough sleep and to reduce stress wherever you can.