According to Recovery.Org, it’s very common for family members and friends to act in ways that enable the behavior of addicts in a ways that leads to further substance abuse and destruction. Enabling behavior include things like repeatedly lending them money or bailing them out of jail, lying to cover up for them or blaming others for their behavior. It can be very difficult to escape this cycle and help your loved one recovery. It’s also important to remember that even if someone really wants to stop using drugs or alcohol, it can be extremely difficult for them to quit. Prolonged substance abuse actually changes brain chemistry and function. These effects on the brain of someone with an addiction can make it very difficult for them to quit on their own without professional intervention.
So how can you help? The good news is that there are things you can do help someone you care about when they are struggling with an alcohol or drug addiction. The first step is to familiarize yourself with the signs of addiction. Secondly, remember that how you talk to your loved one about their addiction matters; confrontation and accusatory language and tone often only make things worse and damage the relationship. Also, avoid approaching the subject when someone is under the influence of drugs or alcohol.